Trusting YOU is the key to be less Stressful, more Happy, more Loving (+ 6 ways to practice self-love)

Isn’t that the truth- for all of us, that we all have an idea in our heads about how things are, how people think about us, and sadly this is what often messes us up and stresses us out the most.

Before my « awakened » readings (check this post about how I felt « released » & free from external forces ;)), I remember I was always thinking about how people would think about my behavior in social events, at work (I was always playing a game and never let my true self emerge), or for instance, when I was a teenager going on dates, I would literally checked every tiny details about a first date, what a guy would think of me (rewinding what I’ve done wrong, trying to analyse all his comings and goings etc.), or when I had a fight with someone, I was resentful and playing the scene over and over again.

That was before ;)

What I learnt is that........

Gonna share 6 ways to be more loving towards your environment : 

Always take time to nurture yourself and be kind to your mind and body. The best way to do this is to simply take a short break - a breather - a vacation - and explore something else for a little while. Don’t get stuck in your routine.

Go get a massage ! Go to some place you’ve never been ! Take a long bubble bath !

Yes, you heard me right : put yourself first!

It has never hurt anybody and that’s how you’ll be more able to give Love to your surroundings since you have already gave enough Love to yourself. You won’t be that kind of person seeking self worth in the eyes of others. That way, you will never need others to give you a sense of self which is a win-win. You learn to trust your partner, your friends, your family and coworkers because you are too busy thinking about your own wellness.

To let go is to be grateful for the experiences that made you laugh, made you cry, and helped you learn and grow.

It’s the acceptance of everything you are, everything you have, everything you once had, and the possibilities that lie ahead. It’s all about finding the strengths to embrace Life’s challenges and changes, to trust your intuition, to learn as you go, to realize that every experience has value, and to continue taking positive steps forward.

Forgiveness is a constant attitude of choosing happiness over hurt - acceptance over resistance.
It’s about acknowledging that we’re all mistaken sometimes; even the best of us do foolish things- things that have severe consequences. But it doesn’t mean we are evil and unforgivable or that we can’t be trusted ever afterward (it’s all in our heads after all).

It might take time to forgive because it takes STRENGTH to forgive. 

When you forgive, you love with all your might. And when you love like this, a heavenly, healing light shines upon you.

That’s why I can say, right now, that I am really grateful for the fact that some people may have deceived me or break my heart along the way, but that helped me grow. I am even more loving towards others thanks to these experiences (I am not the kind that will make a revenge or else because I always let go of the story and am aware of my self worth)

True forgiveness brings you to a place where you can sincerely say « Thank you for that experience » and mean it with all your heart. 

Realize that not everything in Life is meant to be modified or perfectly understood.
Live, Let Go, Learn what you can and don’t waste energy worrying about the things you can’t change.
Focus exclusively on what you can change. And first, it can be the way you look at things. Your perception of what surrounds you (check my post about how to improve your life here). So, if you can’t change something that’s upsetting you, change the way you think about it. Review your options and then re-frame what you don’t like into a starting point for achieving something different in your life.

You can choose to dwell back in the past for learning and joyous reflection. 

You can choose to dwell in the future for positive visualization and practical planning.

However, anytime your awareness floats away to the past or future frequently for negative purposes, you are suffocating your ability to thrive in the only moment you ever have : the NOW. 

Never make others responsible for your good feelings. When your intent is to get approval or attention from others, you feel empty because you are abandoning yourself. 

You have to dare to be yourself, in this moment, however frightening or strange that self may prove to be.

It’s about realizing that even on your weakest days, you get a little bit stronger, if you’re willing to learn.

Which is why, sometimes the greatest thing to come out of all your trouble and hard work isn’t what you get but what you become through it all.

And of course, if you’re struggling with any of these points, know that you are not alone.

I’ve been through tough times and that’s why I can share all that now, so we can all be strong together, feel better and live better.